Friday, 31 December 2010


WARNING: This edition is gonna be exhaustive and cumbersome, it is also Rated ‘TWITTER’ cos it constitutes of lines of severe intellectual depth and subliminals, IQ’s of FB are hereby advised to quit reading cos im sure u’re already lost…Ah! Shucks…who am I deceiving?

I remember 364 days ago this day, how expectations were high, everyone grateful for a year ending and expectant of the one about to roll in…Fast forward 365 days later and here we are at the threshold of the dawn of another year (I love it when I sound like this, it makes me feel so brilliant…hahaha)..Ok, back to reality…This day (December 31st 2010) is one we will NEVER see again…its one that will have lots of people streaming into church (some for the first time), others cos its d normal end of year tradition to spend it in the presence of God and hear what Pastor will declare the year to be, and yet for some others, its just yet another day to do more cooking and expect the inevitable annoying visitors that will come to your house the next day!

2010 has been abi na has being a very eventful year for me but I’m gonna skip all the events that have shaped the year and delve into the reason why we are here..when I look back on this year some hours from now, my greatest joy won’t be at the amount of money I made, the amounts of hearts I broke, the achievements or awards…my greatest joy will be seeing all the people I call my friends and family make it into the new year with me! Every other thing lost can be recovered but friends and family are gifts u can never have again when lost…On BBM, im sure u must have received the presently annoying broadcast of “ping me if ive offended u so I can say I’m sorry before the year runs out”, the one of yesterday was “send me credit if ive offended u so I can call and apologise”…the Broadcasts will keep coming, however since this is my blog and I can say wharreva I like (if u vex, u can ga’an hug Optimus prime), I’m gonna be ‘talking’ about all of u..letting out my steam so that I don’t take it into d new year..ths might be quite revealing so if u have a short tolerance span, this will be a nice point to gerraway…

This edition is dedicated to my friends on Twitter cos y’all have made my 2010 worth every minute..ure d reason im addicted to it, I want to always check up on my Twives in the morning when I wake, I want to see who @ero9ja is bullying today, what @SpitGucci has to say etc…God help me!! Ayt before we head into the shout outs and exposes..lemme do a quick update since the last post..Appaz, as the holidays wound up for me, there was one last gathering to attend..a simple outing day for me eventually turned into a Tweep gathering at E-center, I had originally planned to see a movie there after doing some biz for my dad earlier in d day, but plans changed a day before when I discovered that a lot of tweeps were gonna be meeting there, I think it started with @vivisleek and @Chyychy and then it just snowballed down to all our TL’s..a lot of people on my TL are pervs sha cos 95% (me excluded o…I’m a saint like dat) just came to confirm if @vivisleek is as ‘endowed’ as her avatars show..incase u don’t know, her avatars are always pics of ass and nothing u catch my drift eh? Ok..u’re a perv too!! So long story short sha, Twas madt fun, met a whole lot of tweeps and lets now jump into the shout outs and exposes shall we?

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Here we go…

The story of my 2010 will not be complete without the star actor of this blog..infact she is d reason I changed this blog from a normal informative thing to this online diary sometin..

Barbie’ sorry guys but I cant mention her handle yet..but if u scrutinize d fine girls on my list, she’s definitely d first that will pop out..Lovely sense of humour, sharp tongued, witty, BEAUTYfull, Spirit filled Arsenal lover (yay!) u’ve been a hard nut for me to crack in 2010, friends since 2003, weve come a long we are abt to add another year and all I ask *now kneeling before this tweet audience, no ring in hand though* is that you give me a chance to enjoy the rest of your life with you…i really do love you and I know we can make this work…I’m crazy? Yeah I know! U’re SYB, Yeah I know too!!!

@gigachic…As far as im concerned, the wittiest, funniest lady on twitter, but in real, the sweetest lady I know..pretty, with a voice to die for, jeez!!! As in eh..and her giggles are heavenly…thanks for August –November, I will NEVER forget..ure one of my TOP blessings of the year..i hope, I still get 2 be chief bridesmaid o..yels ke!! Love u babes

@Anniefertiti …a TRUE friend in every sense of d word, Guys she’s the SI unit of sarcastic, yet I haven’t met any so caring, she literarily nursed me through my downtimes and has proven to be a friend in deed, e remain in NEED…(jokes) interesting tweep with a knack for ‘stealing’ all my male friends even in reality o..all of them just get attracted to her…love ya still..Guys she’s single o..u can like to add her and who knows tomorrow…

@Sumbyjay… everytime I see u on my TL, I smile cos u just dey talk ur own on d twitter sha eg: “ah!where r this people?” “they r not here now o” “later they will be looking 4 me” “mtschheeeew”…a real friend uve proven to be n like I said, I cant wait to send my kids to Aunty Sumbo’s for u so much and my respect for u eh…file!! Don’t tosh it!!!

@1Rated_X …My brotha from anotha mother, Bond himself..nuttin do u o guy! Smooth, savvy, dapper, doesn’t tweet much but is one hell of a sarcasticTwit (pun intended), He thinks he’s God’s gift too women but d annoying thing is he learnt all he knows from me..this guy can flirt as in..hmm..his own pass me, at least my own ends on Twitter but his own..iz a long tin o! hailings boss..

Ok, the above peeps are ‘awon temi’ as in..we’ve come a long now lets jump again into tweeps on my TL

@bleezers…Tall, fair and hansome..I like u o guy, especially ur sleepy can trip any girl, ur tweets are sensible and meeting u was a delight..i’ve got ur back sha stop jumping from one of my friends to d other..make up ur mind, is it @sumbyjay, @Eselyzo11 or @serkce…haba!!!

@ThelmaTweets… if ure not ff her, guys ure on expired panadol as in WTF (what’s that for?)…she’s RAWer than WWF, she arouses u in the morning, keeps u aroused all day and sustains the arousal all 9t (is u dat know wat arouse means o!)..and her avatars eh…don’t let ur mum caych u staring oh..shes been a true friend to me and her heart is so pure but her mind eh..i love so much babes, Tx for keeping me sane

@engee01… fine girl, ebony black chic (simon, u shouldn’t read this o!) met her for d first time at ozone but she’s my Twife sha…gr8 sense of humour, oh! I know simon is here, I can’t now say that her hips don’t lie..shes great tweeple…Mwah!!

@BragginRightz… dis one is a confirmed kolo boy (not surprising tho), fun tweep, if u don’t like his choice of words, u can open ur own twitter..he’s my guy sha.. he’s a ladies man too

@m4minx… I have a confession..if wikileaks ever leaks my DMs, the ones ive had with dis lady will crucify me, HINT: shes calabar *ahem* moving on..shes cool, met 4 d 1st time at ozone, also dsnt tweet much but shes fun fun fun, and her mind is no garden of eden sha..nuff said! Love ya

@HUGOverified… pls if ure not ff this ONE, stop reading here and go and ff…Twitter flirt toh badt, dis one is just gone, he’s finished, he’s a proud womanizer, requesting kisses everywhere..but great person, met him @ ozone too..he dsnt send o, imagine he came to ozone with pam slippers and cos of dat d bouncers at koko lounge didn’t allow us enter…weyrey!!!

@Spitgucci… don’t ask me whether he spits a lot or he’s always wearing Gucci..all I know is, he’s a live dude, nice dress sense..guy, I scrutinize ur avatars and ure always on point! Met @ ozone and d ladies seem to like him sha..but dude, methinks ure kinda shy with ‘em..if na me eh..hmmm..ok o!

@Chyychy… small but mighty chick..she can GBAGAUN u on twitter so think b4 ff, shes quiet when u meet her but those of us with minds like these, yet quiet on d outside r d dangerous ones o..she’s a stunner too…are u single?

@WF_SimonSEEZ… Pronounced ‘world famous simon says’ …met @ ozone… cool dude, as in im be like chairman, plenty money and things…he’s a regular tweep, not too often like some of us..he tweets sense and from his tweets, I can tell he’s totally careful not to yarn dust..he shocked me when he said he read my blog, I’m like really?? People read this? I’m honored bro…that word alone has motivated me to keep boring y’all with my stories..

Omo, I dey yawn o (its 2.43am now)

@Le_Maxx… Barrister lawyer that im sure is an olodo, this one can be trying me on dis twitter, dis place will not contain us as in ma kpa e da’anu … lol…I enjoy max and I always look 4wd to his tweets so I can jump on em and say somthin annoyin…he makes sense, he’s a fine yellow boy ladies, I dunno if he’s single sha but he used to like women those days in UNIBEN…big ups bro and do quick and marry @bukiola if shes d one..dont be flooding my TL with her RT

I know theres plenty people I haven’t mentioned as in explicitly but u all contributed to my great adventure of 2010, tweeps like @Eselyzo11 @jemieyt @exschoolnerd @JustAdivaa @ifreke @walegafar @MsJazzyfied @lilmissbeebee @JussBasco @DpEsho @lilmissfoy @lafeyethe @ScriptKidd @ero9ja @schwetiepie @mamustam @honaiy @serkce @Benxxx2 @lhanray @tobiamoo @FunmiFatona @SheriphSkills @vivisleek.. etc

I’d appreciate it if we all could add any tweep listed here who isn’t on ur list so we can become one big happy Twamily..thanx ..iz a suggestion o, I am not by-forcing you! If I didn’t mention your handle, plixt don’t vex, there’s no shekpe in this system right now…d sleep darris cashing me is not here..

I love u guys so much…the curtains are being drawn on 2010..and my prayers for us are that – Twitter will NEVER crash (abeg DM me ur pins after reading just incase..seriously), NETWORK (MTN) will stop frustrating us, U will have money to subscribe, for those without BB, u will buy BB, for those who want iPad, well start with BB…

God keep us all…see y’all in 2011…Happy new year guys!

please do drop a comment...the feedback helps...tnx

In the spirit of the season, I won’t tell u anything if u’re looking for Gbagaun, I’m sure ive left a lot for u to find…enjoy!!!

Saturday, 25 December 2010


My people, this time it really has been a while but abeg its not easy to write abi blog..its even harder when u’re on Twitter which is our ‘blog-on-the-go’ program…Also being in lag doesn’t even make it any easier cos there are (in my case) lots off distractions.

I’ve been in lag and a lot has happened after ‘The experience’ but im’ma try to remember it all and put it up here for my reference and your viewing appaz (that’s new lingo for apparently) the trips started for me as I attended barbie’s induction into N.I.M (yeah she’s smart like that)..from there, we ‘controlled’ @Eselyzo11 , @Sumbyjay and @bleezers...Lemme deviate here and introduce you to @bleezers, he’s a great guy, met him on twitter and he seemed like a great guy plus I think he’s having/had a thing for my friend @sumbyjay…so after induction rites and ish, we all headed to Ozone to do a movie and just hang goal was just to give Barbie a good time in we get there and decide to do ‘Social Network’..great movie by the way, lotsa sarcastic lines and stuff…we had a ball and it was worth every minute…sometimes, just being with the ones u care for makes u feel more alive..

That was actually the last time I gotta see her before she travelled back outta lag..and call me chicken or yella but I still didn’t bring up any heart im back to square one In lag and I just had to find events to fill up my calendar for the remaining days of my holiday…Appaz (yeah that word again..) there was a Twitter party coming up on the weekend, also my secondary sch reunion and weddings too..i had to choose which to attend, decided to do Twiterave and d reunion and beach party on Sunday…

The decision to attend Twiterave was borne outta d desire to just meet new people especially some peeps on my Saturday night 11pm at Number 10..before then though, I dropped in to Galleria around 7pm to do a there late but couldn’t cos d movie had started already, so I waltzed into the sports bar and chilled watching barca humiliate someone 5-1…spotted a chic playing snooker, looking all ‘set’..all I could say was “only in lagos” and I licked my lips..Got to number 10 around 9.30pm for the blue carpet thingy…yels o, I’m a celebrity toh badt..paparazzi cameras flashing and thingz..had to check my name on the guest list, standing between two agberos bouncers was the most innocent and sekcy doormen doorlady I had ever seen…she wasn’t too tall though, so while looking for my name, I had fun checking her out..*wink*…walking in and discovered I was sooo early..chilled at the bar and after getting tired of waiting, walked out to get some air..
While waiting, I saw her and it was so so easy to recognize her cos she definitely STANDS OUT..yeah @exschoolnerd came towards me and we exchanged pleasantries, introductions and all…she was also tired of the whole waiting thing and oh yeah…she was tired after attending funturf earlier in the day. Still chilling together and @toptosyn comes over, looking all dapper (more intros done)..engaged in chit-chat while waiting for Tweeps to turn up..and then doorlady leaves her post and comes towards us and I didn’t dull o…introduced myself (sharply) and discovered she’s @JustAdivaa…

Long story short sha, somehow somehow, I assisted @justAdivaa at door duties, had lots of red bull to keep me awake and agile..eventually joined in the parry but it was kinda like groupies and stuff and for people like us who came alone, we were seriously on a long tin…chilled with @exschoolnerd and @justAdivaa all thru, danced with myself and we (me n myself) had fun..met @walegafar who also chilled with us..stayed there till about 5am…it was fun but could have been better IMO…

Pls eh…Sleep is catching me right now, cos its Christmas night and im Uber tired but before I go , lemme South Shout to some people who have made my blog worth writing…

Eve..though u’ve found a Quality guy..u will always hold a special place in my heart and I mean ALWAYS!! Merry Xmas

Barbie…though u’re listed second, U know that U r (not officially yet sha) my number one and I don’t believe in Santa but u’re one Gift I want wrapped in ‘forever’…Merry xmas

Iris…what can I say? My ever reliable pyramid…love ya

@Sumbyjay…put simply, ure one of my bright spots of 2011…im blessed to know u

@bleezers…guy, lookin fwd to a deeper friendship in 2011

@exschoolnerd…tanx for clogging my TL and for not being stuck up when we met…ure good people, looking fwd to a real friendship in 2011

@ThelmaTweets a breath of fresh air, a true friend…if only tweeps cud enjoy u like I do, but I aint ready to share sha…love u

Ok..the list ain’t done, I’ll do a follow up probli before the new year…

This sleep is wrapping me up mehn so pardon the gbagauns u’ll see but if u don’t wanna pass, its my blog, I can gbagaun all I want while u can like to use Vaseline to fry dodo…mtscheeew!!!

Monday, 6 December 2010


Its a new week, and one that bears no semblance to those passed probably has to do with the fact that im back to the city of my birth: tranquility envelopes me and the hustle and bustle of the city makes me greatful that my heart still beats (though as i write this, im experiencing serious chest pain, dunno why) listening to 'Wild Wild West" by MI and the deep lyrucis and serene instrumentals are seeping through my every pore and fuelling an inner feeling that i cant describe...

Ok..lemme get this together, back in lag and the fun has already started..oh! a lil info bout my trip to lag..had to do a road trip cos mehn to fly now @ dis red december period wouldn't be a prudent decision..i wasnt alone on d trip though..had d pleasure of 'riding' with Barbie..yup! 4 hours of alone time! and u would think i would jump at the oportunity and go on and on about how i feel and all that, so did i? NOPE!!! why? well cos, iBelieve that what needs to be said has been said and i aint one to flog a horse..i just STRONGLY respect d words she told me when i brought up d issue d last time: "Theres Nothing to talk about"
We did have fun on the trip though most of it was spent with our heads down tweeting to each other and pinging (God help us from this BB madness...i loved every minute and i wish the trip didnt end but alas! it did and we parted...

So,after getting off, i started anther long trip to d island..eventually got in around 6pm cos of the lekki traffic hold up..picked up grub at Mr Biggs and bla bla bla...

Friday evening was the EXPERIENCE and oh boy! was it an to TBS at about past 5, twas s'posd to start at 7pm but trust naw, the whole place was almost filled to the brim..lagos get people sha..ah ahn!!! Barbie was somewhere in d midst of the 500,000 people and i had to find her (what are d odds?) but as a very good badt guy, even with the epileptic network connection due to d fact that everyone everywhere seemed to be trying to call somebody somewhere..i was able to locate her! yes gangsta like that! I'm gonna skip all d yadi yada happenings in between...we got great 'seats' facing the stage..these seats were actually a constructed platform made of wood and erected upwards in a stadium like manner (u dig?) hold this picture in ur mind cos i'll come back to it..there we met @Sumbyjay and her friends..and @Sumbyjay was looking all good and em...i know she'll read this so i wont say more cos we are fighting now....While waiting for the EXPERIENCE to begin, we decided to look for @ThelmaTweets who had promised us cans of Fayrouz..i wasnt actually interested in d favrouz but my curiosity was etched on the fact that i wanted to CONFIRM that the things i see on her twitter DP are for real and not some work of photoshop and YES!! seeing her erased all doubts!!! We got the Fayrouz and i got a really tight bear hug as in eh...@ThelmaTweets is a great girl..nice spirit, fun and em..endowed too..i spent time with her later on...

On the whole, the EXPERIENCE was great..i danced in even me sef iTire for myself, d worship was on some point, all i could wish for was that everyone there would be in eternity when it comes but...the whistling and vuvuzelas would have raised the dead without stress..just so d dead can ask to be allowed to rest in PEACE! Barbie and @Sumbyjay had to leave around 1am..and their departure took out the fun from my abi two yoruba guys now came to take their seat as in all these native buba and sokoto wearing people..i mean: who wears buba and sokoto to a concert? they just came n started sleeping n snoring adding to the whistling and vuvuzelaing...i just quickly relocated to meet @ThelmaTweets and there i met @Tobiamoo cool dude..and i loved d fact that he got his worship on..all y'all that judge us Twitter folk should have a rethink: Never judge a person by their tweets, u dont know who they are in person..he seems like good people and he's a gunner..yay!!

I left for home around 4.30am...tired, fulfilled and blessed...The most amazing experience for me wasnt any of the ministrations, or the Presidents speech or any of the prayers neither was it meetng @ThelmaTweets nor hanging with Barbie or @Sumbyjay...Remember our 'seats?' my biggest trip was that inspite of the mammoth number of people that were seating, standing and dancing on that wooden structure and inspite of the way it seemed like it would give in to our weight...God somehow held it together..(dont give me any engineering explanation) the catastrophe would have been incredulous if it had collapsed...My conclusion is that whatever is kept in God's hands, He's able to keep..

Have a great week...

looking for Gbagauns? have a field day cos im sure u'll find many, when u're done u can like to use cement to do face powder....mtscheeeew

Monday, 29 November 2010


Hey guys, here we are again..err..lemme see if I can possibly round up this gist today…please if u’re lost or sumthin, then u might have to read the last post to understand or follow along on this one..
So here I am now getting over the issues of the last months by allowing meself to be open to meeting new people, making new acquaintances etc and I must say that BBM and Twitter provide you with such an opportunity..During this my little sojourn, I really came to discover that unlike facebook which I think is full of dullards uninteresting people who can’t spell, Twitter is full of minds that seem to be bursting at the seams..u have to be on an IQ of about 140 to stay n-sync with the things being said and really understand and appreciate the wit and sarcasm that is hounded all over the place. Might seem boring at first but with more cool tweeps, it all becomes worthwhile..forget all those stars that act like dem dey win award for not following people…shior @ them!!
So anyways,last time, I ntroduced you to eve…yeah, eve and I have been talking on phone and chatting on BBM but we’ve both come to the painful realization that it ain’t gon’ happen between us and like I said last time, we just gonna kick it as friends with no benefits. It really hurts (like realizing your folks omitted your name when listing their kids after winning the US lottery)..that kain thing! Eve and I though share a love that is so pure, true and made in heaven and so can only probably exist in Heaven.. So since life has to go on on earth, I returned to twitter to seek out new, interesting, witty, fine people (I just gave a clue to my preferences) that I could strike up an innocent friendship with..came up with a few ie @exschoolnerd , @ThelmaTweets, @lafeyethe @mimirazzi etc…quickly as a sharp guy,somehow-somehow pins were exchanged and they joined my growing legion of BBM contacts..funny enough, ive only pinged ‘em on very very few occasions…none caught my eye as in..they are either out-of-my league or too celebrity-like. @lafayethe asked for my pin and I thot she might fly till I discovered she was more in love with my Twife ‘eve’ and had a boyfriend sef….mtscheew!! and less abi lest I forget,just some days back, eve tells me she’s now dating someone (as in for real o)..well, I had made my peace with the inevitable long before now so nothing spoil yet
In all these escapades, I must still confess that my heart still beats for just one person but to overcome the lonely feeling that could come when it hits you, I ‘busy’ myself with all these other contacts…yeah, I know I’m whipped! I ain’t even gon’ try to defend myself, when I get on twitter after checking my DM’s and mentions, I head to this person’s page, read thru her tweets and her TL..yeah, BITE ME!! As if u sef u’re any better..abegi!!!
Allow me introduce you to ‘barbie’…yeah, she’s d reason for the season…and no, Barbie ain’t her real name ahn ahn..but she’s gonna be Barbie in this true life story blog…This past weekend was one very memorable one for me because it afforded me the opportunity to spend time with Barbie who was in town for an occasion…don’t let ur perverted minds drift far: nothing sinister happened but being in the presence of some people for just some minutes makes u wish u could spend forever with them, but u know what they say about beggars, horses and wishes but now I think beggars prefer HSE’s to horses
Away from the women before you will be thinking that I’m some kinda woman freak, ive got great guys on here that I look forward to meeting and hangin out with sometime..peeps like @sheriphskills, @ifreke …someday sha!
So here I am, still where I’ve always been, trying daily to survive in this dog eat dog world..keeping my head up…hoping that someday, I would share with y’all how I’ve finally settled with the lady of my dreams abi na reality sef…*rolling eyes* Till then, y’all just gotta endure my rants…
more to come...
Like I say/said..this is my blog and I aint proofreading it or checking for errors, if u’re doing Gbagaun mopol here, u can like to go and dance alanta on 3rd mainland bridge…mstcheeeew!!!

Tuesday, 23 November 2010


Hey peoples, its really been a minute since i put fingers to keyboard and lotsa reasons anyway...i ain't gonna bore u with all those details, so im just gonna delve straight into the stuff i've gotta say!
Well basically a lotta water has gone under the bridge or through the dam as the case may be, FYI this blog is gonna take a different kinda structure as in, its gon' be more informal though still educative so if u aint cool, u can like to hug a NEPA transformer and see the light!
So where were we? yeah, after the last post, i got more into the trends of the moment which of course are 'social' in nature i'e BBM, TWITTER, FACEBOOK (although FB is quite so annnoying nowadays), i seemed to have discovered my Tweet mojo and in my escapades and maybe cos of the nature of my tweets, i copped up a number of friends who have totally made it all worthwhile...A lot of peeps on Twitter have sumthn like alter-egos so dont be quick to judge people by their tweets (me included) as i was saying, lemme gist u about dis one lady i have a 'relationship' with on Twitter, shes basically my Twife, lets call her 'eve'
I was attracted to eve cos of the wit in her Tweets (sounds nice: wit and Tweets) hold on...lemme go and tweet that..Ok, im back! so i sent eve a DM to add me which she did and we had some Twinteractions..after a wyl, i requested for her BB pin which i got (yeah! im a bad guys o)..Incase u don't know BB is a very one kain sha, we chatted a lot, exchanged pics and all of that, sent voice notes and OMG! Eve has a voice that no amount of 'adams' would have resisted if she told em to eat grass sef not fruit abi apple! The voice just knocked me off totally and yeah, im a sucker for voices too (abi u wanna love a woman with James Earl Jones' voice? thats some serious jonzing o!) As much as me and eve clicked,there was a lil snag, shes some years older than i am..and though age aint nuthin burra number but it wouldnt have worked, so we are still in our Twitter relationship sha...
Em..lotsa other peeps have added me on BBM and its been fun with all sorts, infact flirting seems to be d order of d day on BBM o! i have like 3 wives, ive never met them o!! Infact Lord help me..but d good thing is im gradually getting over the hurts of d past months..i've got dis great friend i'll call 'iris'..shes had my back all d way...And i want her to know i lurv her (though she loves someone else o)
Ok guys.i'll try keep this up and update y'all more often on my escapades...
By d way, don't look out for Typo errors, they r there plenty, BUT this is my blog and i'll GBAGAUN as much i want afterall u ain't paying me....mtscheeew!! ( i kearnt that from @sheriphskills)

Friday, 8 October 2010


Hey guys,
yeah it's been a while- i know..reasons are so far and in between..A lot has really happened in my life basically in the last 3 months. its been the most drama-filled months of my year, so where do i start from? Hmmmm...lemme back up a bit to August 17th..

AUGUST cut the very long story short, on this day, i ended what was a year and 9 months of dating..well,er..not because of infidelity issues or fights or quarrels but just because i realised that i was standing in the way of a person's destiny (sounds queer innit) but thats my story and im sticking to it.

So, inspite of the heart palpitations and hurt that comes aong with a break-up, nothing prepared me for what lay ahead..As i struggled through august, i got a call from home with the sad news that i had lost an uncle, might seem 'normal' but what made this the more hurtful was that we had d day before fasted and prayed for his recovery..and sometime during my quiet time, i actually stopped praying for his healing and told God to ease him of the pain and Let His will be done (i knew God was gonna take him) when the news broke, i kinda felt responsible!

I had to get to lag to be with mum and to heal my heart after my break up, started off as a good vacation and then somewhere along the line, my heart picked up a signal that had been inactive for quuuuiiiiite sometime..

i had loved this particular girl for almost all the time i had known her (7 yrs now) but had never had the chance to say it cos at the point i want to, someone beats me to i was 'content' with just being her 'angel on earth' looking out for her and stuff like that! Maybe its d breakup that awakened me to the feelings that were always there but i saw a possibility of 'US' happening...we had being chatting on BB thruout my 'vacation' and one night she tells me a friend of mine asked her im like.."this time i have to let her know what i feel so she can make her decision"

Long story short...after 3weeks in lag, a burial ceremony and a time of rest, she eventually gives me an answer and its not yeah! im back in the same hole i left..back to the hurt and the pain! so basically, this explains my absence but not to worry, im still gonna drop stuff to bless you and aid in your quest for your heart's desire...

This is just the state of my heart right now, i just thot id share this with you..
Have fun guys!

Saturday, 26 June 2010


I commiserate with every Nigerian who dreamed of watching our beloved SUPER Eagles win a game in the World Cup competition.

My heart bleeds as I reflect on all our matches especially against South Korea. My sadness knows no bounds. My 'tears' have stopped flowing.

I was driving through Lekki (Lagos, Nigeria) today & my attention was drawn to the many terrible roads and there was a particular one that was flooded with thick, murky, muddy water. The street looked like a slum, but it had the most beautiful houses on it.

My mind immediately went to the Super Eagles: great individual talent but for lack of planning, investment and adequate preparation, we play like an unskilled team.

So you see, it's the same problem whose symptoms we see everyday in huge generators, overhead water and diesel tanks.

Beautiful lampshades with no light.

Beautiful taps with no flowing water.

Hugely talented players without wins.

Roads without drainage.

Police without security.

Judges without justice.

Hospitals without health care.

Graduates without education.

Businesses without profit.

Workmen without skill.

Can't we see?

It's the same problem! It will require the same solution!

Our nation is calling for Leadership required at all levels.

People who will take responsibility to build & transform their area of gifting until the entire nation is fixed.

Which aspect of Nigeria has God called YOU to transform?

Have YOU started transforming it yet?

Who are your closest friends?
Which aspect of Nigeria has God called them to transform?
Have they started transforming it yet?

Nigeria is bleeding and crying for leaders to emerge out of the shadows and the sidelines of the spectators and commentators.

We need players on the field of leadership.

It's already half time and we are a few goals down but the game is not over!

We need to substitute the Rulers on the field with LEADERS on the bench.

Get off the bench & start warming up.

It's time to Arise and Shine!

It's time to deliver the future.

You can. You must. You will.

Sunday, 13 June 2010

3 Destiny Traps

Hey guys,

just decided to share excerpts of a wonderful message shared sometime ago by FD.
I'm sure this will be a blessing to you.


Recently, I made a comment on my FaceBook Fan page and profile about a covenant that I’d made with God over sexual fidelity with my wife, Tara on pain of death.

I got quite a few email messages asking me to explain what I meant. So this note is my attempt to put this all into perspective.

In 2001, while seeking God’s guidance after leaving Phillips Consulting and establishing Eden (which is our Christian lifestyle and entertainment group…today resident on 7 University campuses); I had received instruction to set up V.I.P Consulting (which is today known as Visible Impact), God revealed to me. 3 “Destiny Traps” that the devil uses to derail people from achieving their purpose.

These 3 Destiny Traps were described to me as:

• The love of money
• The lust and quest for power
• (Pre) or Extra Marital Sex

Some of you might have heard that I made a covenant of fidelity with God that if I ever tried to sleep with any woman who wasn’t Tara that I’d die before I could even attempt to.

Since that day, I’ve come to consider any woman who seeks to attract my attention for seduction; as an assassin! I also believe that any bed that I commit adultery with another woman is a coffin!

Therefore since neither assassins nor coffins hold any allure for me, I’m covered by God’s grace and resist the lust for extra marital sex!

Regarding the lust and quest for power, I got to understand that there are 3 levels:

• Motivational / Inspirational Leadership
• Relational Leadership
• Positional Leadership

From our conversations, I discovered that positional leadership is the lowest level while the other levels are available and bestowed on you. Relational and Inspirational leadership are extremely powerful forms of leadership.

Let me explain, the late M.K.O Abiola was an inspirational leader. Unfortunately, he died in his quest for positional leadership, because he literally stooped to pick up a lower level of influence.

Other great inspirational leaders have included Martin Luther King and Mahatma Gandhi who died, not having any positional power and became exceedingly great because of motivational and inspirational power.

In our generation, we’ve seen the likes of Nelson Mandela and Barack Obama who expressed and harnessed the power of inspirational leadership to effect change in their nations.

And concerning the 3rd level of Destiny Traps; which is money, let me give you a teaser!

God clearly showed me the distinction between riches and wealth.

• Riches are fleeting, while wealth endures.
• Riches don’t guarantee wisdom as we’ve seen in the Scriptures as described by the “rich fool” in Luke 12:16-21 and it also grows wings and flies away as Solomon, the wealthiest man alive; succinctly recorded.
• Only God gives you the power to make wealth (Deuteronomy 8:18).
• Riches are a function of wealth, but wealth is riches and so much more!

(To be continued)


I will try answering this profound question "WHY DO WE HAVE TO SHOUT AT EACH OTHER"???

A professor of theology was teaching about Anger and he asked his students the questions:

"Why do we shout in anger?
"Why do people shout at each other when they are upset"?

The students thought for a while.

One of them said:

Because we lose our calm.

"But why shout when the other person is just next to you"? asked the professor.

"Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice"?

"Why do you shout at a person when you are angry"?

The students gave other answers but none satisfied the professor.

Finally he gave the Psychological, Physiological, and Practical Explanation for shouting:

"When two people are angry at each other, their hearts psychologically distance themselves".

To cover this perception of distance, they think they must shout to be able to hear each other.

The angrier they are, the louder and stronger they will shout to hear each other based on "The Greater Distance".

The professor then asked:

"What happens when two people fall in Love"?

They don't shout at each other but talk softly to one another.


"Because their hearts are Psychologically, Physiological very close".

The distance between them is very small.

The professor continued, "When they love each other even more, what happens"?

"They speak, only in whispers as they even get even closer to each other in Love".

Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all....

So next time you shout to a "Supposed Loved One", know that you are creating distance between your hearts.



Saturday, 22 May 2010


Dear You,

This is the first time that I’m writing to you [and in fact to be honest, this is the first time that I’m writing anybody] but I’ve been trying so hard to reach you and this is a last resort.

The reason I’ve been trying so hard is that I have a very important message for you. Listen, I want you to take this seriously, but also...I...I really don’t know how to put this is easy terms. So I’ll just say it like it is okay?

You are dying.

I’m sorry; forgive my rudeness I didn’t even realize that I hadn’t introduced myself. I am YOU. Yes I know it’s shocking to get a letter from yourself but like I said, I’ve tried every other method to catch your attention and now have to resort to this.

I am you – or more accurately, Y.O.U.

What was that you asked? Who exactly am I? But I told you before - Oh! I didn’t tell you what Y.O.U stands for – my apologies. I am Your Own Uniqueness...

I’m the reason you’re not a clone.

Although you try so hard to make me go away. And judging by how much you purposely try and resemble EVERYBODY else in your age and social groups – I’d say you’re also trying very hard to be a clone...but get this -

You are dying.

Do you understand that? I know that over the years you have built a mechanism to hear those words but refuse to understand or dwell on the concept, so I want you to pause and really understand what I am telling you – You. Are. Dying

There is nothing you can do to stop it. No way to avoid it. As sure as there is a sun in the sky. You Will Die. And it has already begun, with every passing day...

We have so little time so please quit trying to figure how someone else did it, or trying to copy the exact path someone else followed to ‘make it’. You are not them, but more importantly, they are not you.

Use you/Y.O.U for the betterment of someone else and you’ve found happiness; silence the noisy voices of this clueless raving mad world, listen to God. Listen to your heart – and you’ve found you

Why am I writing this to you? First to tell you, remind you, clearly of your impending death, and to ask you to QUIT complaining! You have things to do. A major mark to leave on this world, get to it!

I don’t even want to hear any of your tired excuses..i can’t just...’ or the usual ‘How do you expect me to simply...’

Oh puhleease...

There’s no second shot. No ‘later I will’. LIFE IS NOT A TEST DRIVE!!! This is ALL you have. One shot and it’s over. So quit it with the petty excuses


No More Excuses. No More Delays. Why’re you still reading this anyway? Drop this RIGHT NOW and get out a sheet of paper and start to list all the things we’re going to accomplish in the next two hours. RIGHT NOW

Don’t even play games with me. I know you, remember? I AM YOU. What do you mean that you don’t have any dreams? No plans? I know that little thing in the back of your head that you’ve been trying to ignore for years. That thing you would have really loved to do but ‘this is Nigeria and those kind of things don’t work here’.

For the sake of both of us, be quiet and obey Nike


Yes I know it costs money, Umm-hmm I know you are not qualified for it. I know there’s no time. We can continue talking about it while you start doing it.

What if you fail? What’s the worst that can happen? You don’t make any money. So what? You don’t become a superstar – and then? Wetin Happen?

God is real. Y.O.U’re real. Love it or hate it. Admit it or not.


You Are Dying. You Are Not A Clone. Accept It. I Am Your Own Uniqueness. Accept Me. You Have A Dream. Dreams....plural, but it all starts with just one...

Just Do It!


You want to know HOW to do it? How to write me back? How to get your dreams out of your head and into reality? There’s a sheet of paper after this that can get you started

This is a long letter, but this is it. The rest is up to YOU. Please extend my greetings to the family and your friends – you’ve hidden me from them for a while but I hope I’ll meet them soon...
I hope they get to meet Y.O.U...

Yours Sincerely

Tuesday, 18 May 2010


Now, this one is for my guys with all your swag and read, ponder and act/change


I consider it a great honour and privilege to be writing to you, mighty man of valour.

A few days ago, I posted a thought on FaceBook, speaking to women, about Becoming the Woman of His Dreams. I wanted women to understand the age old question of “what do men want”?

In that note, I was able to outline the 3 types of men that were out there:

• The Scavenger
• The Hunter
• The Gardener

Time doesn’t allow me to redefine these concepts over again, but if you haven’t read it, do take some time out to read that particular article on the “Notes” section of my FaceBook page.

I was particularly touched by the comments made by the ladies; in response to it. It’s sad that they seem to be surrounded by either scavengers or hunters. I know that’s not who you are.

I know that you’re a gardener.

So, why am I here? I just wanted to “talk” to you for a bit.

To become the dream husband that your dream spouse is looking for, there are a few things that I think you should know.

• You must have VISION: As God’s man and the head of your home – to – be, vision is very important! Your vision is a picture of your future destination (yours and hers). A man without vision is blind. While I was dating and eventually married Tara, I would paint pictures of where God was taking me, and where inevitably, I was taking her. Even though my location denied my vision, there was something about the force of my convictions that inspired her to take a “crazy” leap of faith to believe in me.

At this time, I was “broke, busted and disgusted”, living in a small “one bedroom room” in a boys’ quarters, had only a mattress, cane dustbin and one chair. But I knew where I was going, who was taking me there, even if I didn’t know how I was going to get there! If you have no vision, don’t get involved in a relationship! Wait until you get one! Most men want women to submit to them and they throw a fit when they don't. But take a look at the word “submission”. It’s a compendium of 2 words; “sub” (meaning under) and “mission” (meaning purpose or intent). For a woman to “submit”, she must first understand your mission before she can “sub” to it. What’s your mission? Where there’s no mission, there can be no submission!

• You must take ACTION: Vision without action is only a dream! You know the saying; “if wishes were Range Rovers’, everyone would drive”. But it's not what you drive that matters, it's what drives you!

Too many men talk, without having corresponding action. One of my sons, Remi Dairo always says; “those who take steps, get help”. You’ve got to take steps!

While I was still living in that room, I started my company (then called V.I.P Consulting). I had no computer, no internet access, no printer, no tables nor chairs. But in my vision, I hired 2 staff! Since we had no tables or chairs, Tara and I would take out our bed in the morning, my “staff” and I would sit on the bed and cane dustbin as our “office”. Every morning, for 2 weeks, I facilitated an induction process for them! We had no clients at the time and seemingly, nothing else to do, but I would pump them for hours, telling them what this great company was going to do! Then, we would write our proposals and send them out to our clients. We didn’t just “talk the talk”, we “walked our walk”. Today, I walk in the vision I saw 10 years ago! Take steps now! Don't just talk about it! Do it and let others talk about it!

• You must have WORK: I didn’t say you must have a job, I said you must have work! What’s the difference? From your job, you can make a living, but from your work, you find your life’s purpose. Remember that in Scripture, God put Adam into the garden to tend it and take care of it. But don’t get me wrong, a job is important! Like it or not, women are wired to recognize that a job means security. Women recognize the long term effects of being in a relationship with you. They’ll analyze whether or not you can take care of them, and inevitably, the children. You must be either be gainfully employed (with a job), gainfully employable (you're the right candidate for employment in the process of getting a job) or gainfully employing (entrepreneur or business owner)! You must have the ability to stick to a course of action. Too many men are distracted. Don’t chase money! Let money chase you. Look for problems, proffer solutions that add value and naturally, wealth follows value as a reward.

• You must respect your BODIES: Most men have the ability to have relationships with many women over the course of a lifetime, but a REAL MAN is one that has the ability to stick with ONE WOMAN for ALL OF HIS LIFETIME! You must set the standards for physical intimacy in your relationship.
I know it’s not easy, but you must set boundaries for yourselves.

That means you can’t be alone in a room together, if you know that it causes you to fall and make mistakes. Meet in open places in full view of people. Don’t start what you know you can’t finish! There’s no point! The cost to both of you is high! I don’t believe in “safe sex”, I believe in “saved sex” (which is sex within the boundaries of marriage)! Can you handle the consequences of a few minutes of pleasure and a lifetime of regret and guilt? If you can’t remain celibate till marriage, then, get married. I know it sounds old fashioned, “everyone’s doing it”. That’s not true. God holds you to a much higher standard. Deal with your thoughts, because your mind will determine what your body does.

• Girls date guys, but marry MEN! You can’t believe the number of times I hear “Fela, there are no good men in church. All we see are boys”. That’s really sad! My dear gardener, women are extremely perceptive. They can look at you and instantly tell where you’re going! They know if you’re going somewhere in a hurry or nowhere fast! Don’t sag your trousers. It’s not the “responsible look”. Make sure your nails are well trimmed (don’t save that last multi-purpose finger nail), shine your shoes, smell and look like your future, not your present. Listen, money will determine the quality and quantity of what you wear or buy, but your mindset will determine HOW you wear it! Tara said that she knew how clean and neat I was simply by noticing the arrangement of my books. I would arrange them neatly in ascending order (I’m still like that, by the way)

• You must have the right ASSOCIATIONS: It’s said that “birds of the same feather, flock together”. The Bible even says “that he who walks with the wise, shall himself be wise; but the companions of fools shall be destroyed” (Proverbs 13:20). Who are you walking with? Are they considered wise BY OTHERS (not by you) or otherwise? If you want to be successful, start learning from successful men. I believe that “experience is not the best teacher, but other people’s experience is the best teacher”. When you learn from the experiences of others, it shortens your learning curve. Women can tell where you’re going, simply by looking at your associations!

• You must have the right COVER!

As Christ is the Head of the Church, you are the head of your family, but you must have cover. A covering could be a mentor that you respect and are in submission to. This must be a person of integrity, whose instruction you value and who has the right to call you to order if need be. A man without a cover is like a city without walls! Women recognize that if you’re not “under cover”, you may have no regard for authority. Your relationship with God comes first! You cannot lead your home, if God does not lead you. I don’t mean the regular act of Sunday worship or Friday prayers, you must have a relationship with God that goes beyond your religion.

Before I got married, I’d developed the habit of hearing from God. For example, God had told me that I was to get married on my 30th birthday, so I knew that I wasn’t looking for a girlfriend.

Over time, Tara knows that when I say “God said…” she knows that I’ve heard from God. Why? Because it’s been proven over time that I hear from God.

Every time God asked me to give out a car, it was by instruction. I heard Him first. You must never use God’s Word to you to manipulate your spouse; that amounts to witchcraft! Get a word from God before you get married; ask Him if who you’re with is your wife or not.

Remember, I believe in you and I trust that as a true gardener, you will see women as seeds to nurture and bring out their potential, not as prey to satisfy or gratify your needs for conquest as hunters do. Stick with one woman and bring out all that God has pushed into her.

Make me proud!

The proof of a good gardener is his garden.

I know you'll take care of yours.


Monday, 17 May 2010

Finding your Natural Habitat

It’s a great day!

A lot of people have constantly asked “how do I discover my passion and my purpose”?

This blog is an answer to that question.

Today, I’d like to share secrets to what I call “Finding Your Natural Habitat”.

Every creature created by God has a natural habitat where it functions to the best of its ability. Let me explain. Where’s a bird’s natural habitat? Of course, in the air! What about a fish’s natural habitat? In water, isn’t it?

Birds exhibit amazing abilities when they are in their element; air. Fish swim so gracefully when immersed in water. Have you ever seen a bird that died from too much flying? Or a fish that died from drowning because it swam too much? Of course not! So, the question is, “Where’s my natural habitat”?

I’m glad you asked.

You were designed to fulfil purpose. God sent you to earth to discover it and die fulfilling it! Anything outside that purpose becomes an abuse of purpose. You’ve heard it said that “when the purpose of a thing is unknown, abuse is inevitable”. Look at the word abuse; what does it mean?

Abuse is the compendium of two words. “ab” and “use”. “Ab” means abnormal and “use” of course, means to use. Therefore, to abuse means an “abnormal use”. Are you using your gift abnormally?

I always say, “God’s greatest desire is for you to do for a FEE, what He created you to do for FREE”!

Think about it. When we mention golf, what name comes to mind? Tiger Woods! Okay, what about free kicks? Beckham! Women’s’ Tennis? Did I hear u say Venus or Serena Williams? Information Technology? Bill Gates! Okay, so when I mention your name, what comes to mind? I don’t mean to be rude, but if your name’s mentioned and nothing comes to mind, could it infer that your name is a code? A code is a group of undecipherable alphabets, symbols or numbers that you key into a system that sends you an error in return.

Type this into your cellphone. #555*1*2*kmji12377839987*SEND. What does it give you? UNKNOWN APPLICATION!!! Therefore, if your name doesn’t come to mind for anything, do forgive me again, it’s an UNKNOWN APPLICATION! Now’s a good time to say God Forbid! Tiger Woods LOVES playing golf, it’s not a job to him, it’s fun! He gets paid to have fun! Jayjay Okocha has fun dribbling people and gets paid for it. You should see me do what I do, I HAVE A BLAST speaking, it’s fun and I get paid huge sums!

Question is; what can you do for fun and still get paid for it?

Let me assist in curbing your dilemma. Would you like to discover your natural habitat? Well, here are 22 questions that I came up with; that I believe will help you. Here we go.

1. Am I happy with my results?

2. Would I like to grow doing what I do today?

3. Is what I am doing today using my natural talents and personality?

4. Would I like to be the best ever at what I am doing today?

5. What one thing do I need to do/ change that would make the greatest positive impact on my life?

6. Who is doing something closest to my dreams?

7. What would I like to be successful doing?

8. What area would I like to make a positive impact?

9. What would I like to be remembered for the most?

10. What mind blowing accomplishment would I like my name stamped on?

11. Michael Jordan - Basket ball, Tiger Woods – Golf, Bill Gates – Computers etc. What field would I like my name to define?

12. What do I do best with least effort?

13. What kind of assistance/ help do people ask me for most frequently?

14. In what area, do people show me the greatest regard/ respect/ accolade??

15. What can I do for fun and still earn money?

16. What frustrates me the most when it’s poorly done?

17. I usually lose track of time when I am…..?

18. I would like to win an award for excellence in….?

19. Which of all human needs touches my heart the most?

20. I am the solution, what is the problem?

21. Who has the problem? Describe as accurately as possible.

22. Which magazines/ discussions interest me the most?

Take some time out to honestly answer these questions and they will point you in the direction of your natural habitat.

Stay blessed guys

culled from; FELA DUROTOYE!

Friday, 14 May 2010


Hey guys,
This is officially my first blog post, yippee!! well, its not my usual thing really but it's something i really would love to put out there for all my ladies especiaaly those caught up in Beyonce's 'Single ladies' anthem.

so here goes guys..and oh! by the way, it's culled from my mentor and leader: Fela Durotoye..


Ladies, why do you want to get married?

Is it because you’ve fantasized about the wedding day, or is it because your friends are getting married, or could it be pressure from family and friends who constantly remind you of the ticking of your biological clock? I assure you that those are all the wrong reasons to get married.
To many women fantasize about the WEDDING DAY, and don't prepare for the MARRIAGE.
The truth is, the marriage begins when the wedding ends.

So why then should you get married?

Forget the fairy tales, marriage is a covenant of two imperfect people coming together, committing their lives together forever, to create a union under God.

So what are the steps to getting the man of your dreams?

Step 1: Be the right woman:

What kind of wife would your dream husband be looking for?
Single ladies; please remember that as a woman thinks in her heart, so she “is”; not will be. Simply put, your thoughts, values, habits and words can tell any man, the kind of wife that you “are”, even though you are not married yet.

Step 2: Become a wife, while you’re waiting for a husband

Ladies, please recognize that “guys DATE chics and then go on to MARRY wives”. If the truth be told, there are too many Christian chics and too few Christian wives (or “wife material”) in Church today. Ask yourself, “am I a chic or a wife?” Who must I BE to attract who I WANT. Sweetheart, the man of your dreams isn’t hanging around in a bar or at a club, so what are you doing there?

Step 3: Who must be to attract who I want?

Write down the list of qualities that you want your husband to have. Now look at that list carefully. What have you written? God fearing, Intelligent, Good Communicator, Gainfully employed, Clean, Fun, has a car, apartment, has money etc.

Now, ask yourself, does your list consist more of “what he has” or “who he is”? If it’s driven by what he has, then, you may be driven by the external props and anybody can fake that. “Sharp” guys can borrow their friends’ cars, apartment, money etc, but the intangibles of “who he is” cannot be faked. Character, truth, integrity, passion can’t be faked.

If you want a God fearing man, are you God fearing? If you want an intelligent man, can you hold up your end of a conversation? You want a man who's gainfully employed, do you have a job?

When I began dating Tara, I was quick to inform her that I wasn’t looking for a girlfriend, but a wife. She thought that was the most unromantic thing I’d ever said, but she appreciated the fact that I was honest with her from the get go. Ladies, marry a man for “who he is”…even if the world hasn’t seen it yet; rather than for “what he has”, because what he has can be taken away from him, but who he is will be all that’s left.

When Tara and I began dating, I was living in a small “one room, room” where I had to share a communal toilet and bathroom with several families (one of my cooks used to be my neighbor). All my property (TV, electronics fridge, and other appliances) had been sown by instruction to build a campus ministry in OAU, Ife, called Eden. All I had left was a cane dustbin, a mattress and a carpet with a hole in the middle (which the bed thankfully covered).

But there was much more to me than what I didn’t seem to have. I was always talking about my vision, what our life would be, where I was taking her to and I was also TAKING ACTION STEPS to get us there. Ladies, beware of the man who only talks the talk, but doesn’t WALK THE WALK! He must have corresponding action with his words.

Sometime ago, about 3 years ago, Tara and I were invited to a TV interview, and the host asked me what was imperative for women to look for in a man. I remember saying. “Don’t marry a man for his “television”, marry a man who has vision and one day; his vision will put you on television”!

So ladies, please understand that there are 3 types of men:

1. The Scavenger: The scavenger is a man who capitalizes on a “dead” and “lifeless” woman. Scavengers look for women with low self – esteem, filled with pity and act like victims of life. These men prefer ladies with no inner strength that are always begging for sympathy or for someone, anyone to love them. Scavengers enjoy “no resistance” as they ravage their victims. If you’re like me, I enjoy watching Discovery Channel and Animal Planet on DSTV. I’ve discovered that in the animal kingdom, scavengers include animals like the hyena and the vulture. If you notice, these scavengers often look for the weak, sick or young, helpless animals that offer the least resistance.

Are you attracting scavengers? If you are, you need to shore up your self confidence and self esteem.

2. The Hunter: The hunter seeks to trap a luscious “game”, with the sole intention of devouring her; with only a remnant of a carcass. He looks for a beautiful intelligent woman, whom he considers to be a prize possession. This guy isn’t in the hunt, just to fulfill his desires, no, he’s after what hunters regard as “BIG GAME”. He’s looking for the “Big 5”. These are the 5 most difficult animals to catch on foot. The collection consists of the lion, the African elephant, the African Buffalo, the leopard and the rhinoceros, either the black rhinoceros or the white rhinoceros. The members of the big five were chosen for the difficulty in hunting them.

He’s inspired by the thrill of the chase. The more she runs, the more enticing she becomes. He only wants her as a prize. When the hunter overcomes his quarry, the first thing he does is to decapitate it. Once beheaded, it is skinned and dried and then placed as a trophy on his wall to brag about. Does this sound familiar? The hunter finally gets the girl, eliminates her self esteem and causes her to be a shadow of herself. He kills her dreams, business ideas and her passion. Do you know any hunters? They’re only in for the kill!

3. The Gardener: Now, this is God’s intention for what a husband should be! This man sees his wife as a seed. He recognizes that a seed is a tree in disguise! His responsibility is to nurture and bring out the best from her. One of the things a gardener does is to create the right environment for the seed to grow.

He nurtures her in an environment of love and care. Next, after planting, he waters her. What that means is that he’s concerned about her dreams; he wants to know what makes her tick. He takes her dreams and gives them expression; he puts structure and substance to her ideas. When he talks about her dreams, he uses the plural of “we”. He takes personal responsibility for the accomplishment of her dreams. He also removes weeds around her. He gets rid of all negative associations that are around her.

Another thing the gardener does is to prune her. Pruning means to “cut back”. So he cuts back her excesses. It reminds me of those wall plants that grow so long, over other fences and eventually becomes a nuisance to everyone. Sometimes, cutting back is a painful process to the plant, but it is necessary for the plant to develop the tenacity for explosive growth. He cuts excessive, improper behavior, value systems and friendships. But this in all is done in love with the aim to make her better. He enlightens and encourages her to be all that she can be, to do all that she can do and to enjoy all that she can have.

The wife of a gardener is like the path of the righteous; she shines brighter and brighter. She never has a better last year. She’s always growing and glowing with new ideas, new projects and new levels. Her testimonies are full of promotion, profit and new experiences. Her life is every inch, the dream of other women.

Clearly, what all these 3 kinds of men seek in their dreams is as far apart as the east is from the west. Forgive me if I’m wrong, but I don’t think God created man to be a hunter or scavenger. My Bible tells me in the Book of Genesis that the man God created and formed was assigned to tend the GARDEN of Eden. This tells me that the first man was clearly designed and wired to be a gardener and it was that man God thought shouldn’t be alone.

As far as I’m concerned, every hunter & scavenger deserves to be a bachelor until they change their values, desires and dreams. I certainly hope that I can speak for all gardeners in this article.

The evidence of a good gardener is his GARDEN. Take a look at my garden – TARA, and you can tell if I am a good gardener. And even though I know there’s great room for improving my gardening skills.

I hope this note helps you sort out the gardeners from the rest.

I believe in you and I know you're going to make one lucky man very happy very soon

Expecting your wedding invites soon.